Tips

Sexuality is experienced differently for everyone. It is important to look at all areas of one's life (whole person perspective) before making an assumption about sexual functioning or one's sexual self.

One thing that is important when it comes to functioning issues is to have a full medical workup so that if there are any medical issues they can be managed. It is not uncommon for medical issues to be at the root of sexual functioning issues. With that being stated it is also not uncommon for relationship issues, trauma issues, self-esteem, compulsivity, orientation, values, religion, etc to be at the root either.

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The Most Important Tip:

You have a job to do in therapy-that is you need to define who you want to become and what you want out of therapy. The therapist helps you to reach your goals. It is also important to mention that if you need help in defining who you want to become and what you want out of therapy- the therapist can help you uncover this. Often, therapy is a commitment to yourself. It is important to be ready for that commitment.

I often ask the questions:

Who are you?

Who do you want to be?

What kind of life do you want to live?

These are questions to help guide you in thinking about yourself. It is the belief that you can be your best YOU.

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Another Important Tip:

There are so many tips to be given about so many topics in Human Sexuality. However, more specifically, when it comes to Better Sex the most important tip is:

Authenticity goes a long way!

We gather lots of information from our world (societal conditioning) about sex and sexuality. The most common thing I hear when it comes to good sex is whether or not the person(partner or otherwise) was really into it and enjoying the experience-without masking themselves with what they think the other person wants.

If you do not enjoy sex (or your sexuality) We can work together to help you find ways to experience pleasure with your sexuality. The concept of pleasure is unique for all of us and it's OK.

And Yet Another Important Tip:

Communication is often at the key of healthy relationships. It is important to be communicating effectively with your partner. This includes healthy arguing, negotiation, empathy, and tact.

Many couples have breakdowns in communication which leads to other issues in their relationship-Sex being one them.

Start with the basics:

Be honest with your feelings (use tact)

Use "I" statements so your partner does not feel blamed

Do not call each other hurtful names

Listen (without preparing your reactive monologue)

Live Your Life To The Fullest!

Nationally Recognized Sex Therapist, Sex Educator and International Author