Question from the live Sex Cafe at Stoney’s

I received a question about birth control in my question bag from the live Sex Cafe this past Weds night.
“I’m on birth control but it is lowering my sex drive per the dosage. I wasn’t ok with that. Is there something I can do?”

Answer: birth control can lower sex drive due to the fact that you are entering synthetic hormones into your system. To be honest- I’m not a big fan of birth control pills for the mere fact that they can wreak havoc with your system. But many women use them and seem to be ok. If you are having issues you can switch to another pill or method like the ring- sometimes it takes a few to get one to work with your body chemistry.

Condoms are an option as well- so are ovulation kits. You may want to also think about getting fitted for a diaphragm which has no hormones in it. However it is said to use spermicide with these which again I’m not a big fan of because over time the spermicide eats away at vaginal lining making you more susceptible to infection.

IUDs are also an option. Non hormonal IUDs are effective but again some women have side effects.

Dr. Deb Laino

2 Replies to “Question from the live Sex Cafe at Stoney’s”

  1. Hi-
    I have a question about pain during sex-
    I get a slight pain in my vagina and frequent UTIs after sex. My gyn exams are all normal- is there anything I can do?

    1. Hi Jenn,

      Pain in the vagina can come from a host of things- I am glad to hear that your gyn (pap and check up exams I am assuming) are normal. With that being said, positions can cause pain, lack of lubrication can cause pain, IC (painful Bladder syndrome) can all cause pain. If you have not had your blood tested for a while go back and get some hormonal testing done (especially if you are dealing with any lubrication issues.)
      Many women will have a slight pain if they are not fully aroused. Make sure you and your partner are spending time during foreplay making you aroused. Assuming that your partner is a male he will generally get aroused quicker then you.

      In addition, before we start looking at possible allergic reactions to semen make sure you and your partner are clean (no sweat-so literally shower before sex) so there is no bacteria that can get in your vagina and cause a UTI. Also, check your condoms as well- if you are using them- they can cause irritation as well because of the spermicide or a slight allergy to latex. Switch to an organic brand with no spermicide and see if the pain goes away. A good brand is Sustain which is a natural latex and made for sensitive skin.

      Dr. Deb

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